I recently had a friend who posted an article on facebook. It's my lunch break, and I'm bored, so I figured,
"What the hey, I'll give it a read. It's got a catchy title."
The article he had posted was entitled My First Blog: The Result of a Closed-Minded 23 Year Old. With nothing more to go on than that, I figured it could be about anything. It's been a few years since I've been 23, but I'm always up for some good reading material.
As it turns out, her blog was actually a response to an entirely different blog post entitled 23 Things To Do Instead Of Getting Engaged Before You’re 23.
Again, I'm not 23. I remember it being a good time though and I thought "I might not be 23 anymore, but maybe I can still do some of these things before I hit the Big 3-0?"
But the article wasn't just a simple list of things to do and places to visit... It was MUCH MORE.
"What the hey, I'll give it a read. It's got a catchy title."
The article he had posted was entitled My First Blog: The Result of a Closed-Minded 23 Year Old. With nothing more to go on than that, I figured it could be about anything. It's been a few years since I've been 23, but I'm always up for some good reading material.
As it turns out, her blog was actually a response to an entirely different blog post entitled 23 Things To Do Instead Of Getting Engaged Before You’re 23.
Again, I'm not 23. I remember it being a good time though and I thought "I might not be 23 anymore, but maybe I can still do some of these things before I hit the Big 3-0?"
But the article wasn't just a simple list of things to do and places to visit... It was MUCH MORE.
The author of the original article writes about how, at 23, she feels like all her friends are getting married and how she herself can't possibly imagine settling down with one person for her entire life. After a brief reflection, she thought, and this is a direct quote, so pardon the language...
But then I look at my life, my relationships, and my future… and I realize that,
I’m fucking awesome. It literally isn’t me, it’s them.
And her list of 23 things to do before getting engaged is a great list. I'm a big fan of pretty much every item she provides. And while it might be playing devil's advocate to state that a lot of these are things you can still do even after getting married (except maybe numbers three and eleven), I totally agree with this list.
And I GET IT. Her entire point is that people, often times young people, but not exclusively, are in a hurry to find someone who completes them. Someone who fills a void in their life that they have no idea how to fill otherwise.
And I won't completely dismiss the idea that I think I used to be one of those people.
SERIOUS.
It's taken me a long-ass time to realize that I am not the same person I was when I graduated college. I could have in no way, shape or form predicted that I would be where I am right now. Had you asked me at 23 what I'd be doing with my life, the answer would be teaching, coaching, and raising at least two of my (planned) three children.
FAIL. Because I'm not doing any of those things. Clearly, any career I may have had as a psychic is also not going to work out.
And I GET IT. Her entire point is that people, often times young people, but not exclusively, are in a hurry to find someone who completes them. Someone who fills a void in their life that they have no idea how to fill otherwise.
And I won't completely dismiss the idea that I think I used to be one of those people.
SERIOUS.
It's taken me a long-ass time to realize that I am not the same person I was when I graduated college. I could have in no way, shape or form predicted that I would be where I am right now. Had you asked me at 23 what I'd be doing with my life, the answer would be teaching, coaching, and raising at least two of my (planned) three children.
FAIL. Because I'm not doing any of those things. Clearly, any career I may have had as a psychic is also not going to work out.
And I get that obviously this isn't true for everyone. Some people are ready for that commitment at a young age. some people may NEVER be ready for that level of commitment, no matter how old they are.
But this article really hit home for me in that it kind of (in the most sarcastic way possible) explains how I'm feeling at this point in my life.
This post may be a little deeper than my normal "Whoo hoo! I just ran a ton and now I'm all hyped up on endorphins! Isn't life great?!" kind of post. But I like to write about things that I feel pretty passionately about. I think it makes for better reading. And this article really hit home for me.
I think both authors have a valid point to make. No, not everyone should get married young. Sometimes you need to make sure that YOU are a complete person before pairing up with someone else for life like a penguin. But on the flip-side, some people are ready. And just because you're in a committed relationship doesn't mean you're excluded from traveling, having adventures, or enjoying new experiences.
Anyways, at this point in my post, really what I want to encourage all of you to do, and I'm including myself in this as well, is to challenge yourself to try new things! Get out there and really experience life! There are so many great and wonderful things to do and so often we limit ourselves to what we feel most comfortable with. And with that final note, I will leave y'all in peace.
Thanks for the time and reading my ramble! So much love! <3
#runlove, y'all!
But this article really hit home for me in that it kind of (in the most sarcastic way possible) explains how I'm feeling at this point in my life.
This post may be a little deeper than my normal "Whoo hoo! I just ran a ton and now I'm all hyped up on endorphins! Isn't life great?!" kind of post. But I like to write about things that I feel pretty passionately about. I think it makes for better reading. And this article really hit home for me.
I think both authors have a valid point to make. No, not everyone should get married young. Sometimes you need to make sure that YOU are a complete person before pairing up with someone else for life like a penguin. But on the flip-side, some people are ready. And just because you're in a committed relationship doesn't mean you're excluded from traveling, having adventures, or enjoying new experiences.
Anyways, at this point in my post, really what I want to encourage all of you to do, and I'm including myself in this as well, is to challenge yourself to try new things! Get out there and really experience life! There are so many great and wonderful things to do and so often we limit ourselves to what we feel most comfortable with. And with that final note, I will leave y'all in peace.
Thanks for the time and reading my ramble! So much love! <3
#runlove, y'all!